Tuesday, April 9, 2019
Many people believe that time is more valuable than money. But we tend to waste our time chasing behind people who don't value the time and effort that we are putting into them. You can tell how much you care about someone by how much time you put into focusing on their well-being. If you are constantly calling them to see if they are okay. If you are constantly yearning to be in their presence. If you spend a great amount of time thinking about them or worrying about them, that's when you know you care. But the question is, do they care? Do they notice the time you are spending focusing on them? Do they appreciate the time that you dedicate to their well-being? Time is something that you can never get back. The best way to show someone that you appreciate the time they spend on you is to return the favor by spending a little bit of your time focusing on them. So now, how many of us are wasting our time? How many of us have time that could be better spent focusing on bettering ourselves and figuring out what we truly want to do with our lives? How many of us have invested so much time in a person who doesn't appreciate it that we feel like we might not have any time left to find the one who really is right for us? Don't you think it's about time you stopped wasting YOUR TiME!
YOU CAN BE TIRED, ANGRY, BROKE, LONELY, BROKEN, SCARED, CONFUSED, STRESS, AND DEPRESSED AND STILL SUCCEED!
You might be thinking, “I'm never going to achieve anything in my life. I don't have the education, I don't have the resources, I don't have the time , I have too many problems, I have too many responsibilities, I'm stressed out, I'm depressed, I'm lonely, and I'm sick of living like this!” But trust me, we all feel the exact same way. Life can be hard and being patient can be even harder. But you need to understand something, everything you need to succeed in your life is already at your disposal. you already have all the tools and ingredients necessary to build the life that you want for yourself. I know that's hard to believe but that really is how life works. Each of us are individuals and our paths to success are going to be different. You're not going to get there the same way everybody else does. Just because one person needed money doesn't mean you're going to need money. Just because someone else went to school doesn't mean you have to go to school. everything that is going on in your life right now is exactly what needs to happen in order for YOU to succeed. The catch is, you have to be strong enough to not let your problems defeat you. You have to remain optimistic and focused and know that everything you are going through is not meant to hurt you or bring you down. Just the opposite. It is meant to build You up, to edify you and to make you humble. In the end you will get what you want. You just have to hold on long enough to receive it!
You are the one who is always calling and texting. You are the one who is always doing little things to let them know that you love them. You are the one who always wants the two of you to spend more time together. You are the one who is always driving yourself crazy thinking about them. And what do they do? They never call, they're never home, they always have an excuse why they can't spend time with you, they always break their promises, and you are the one left feeling depressed and miserable. It is about time you start asking yourself why you are letting yourself go through this. You are the one that is in control of what happens to you. You are the one who is in control of how much of your energy you put into someone else. We have to learn to stop chasing someone who doesn't want to be caught. The problem is, it is more appealing, more fun, more exciting when we chase someone. We think we can wear them down and force them to love us. But it never happens. It can't happen. If you let them, anyone will pretend to be with you. They will take everything that you have to offer and leave you with nothing. And guess what? It's not their fault. You are the one giving away pieces of yourself for nothing in return. It is human nature to take what is given or what is offered. So you need to stop offering! You need to stop allowing yourself to want someone who doesn't want you. You need to stop spending all your time worrying about someone who doesn't care if you are there or not. You are worth more than that!
We are always searching for everyone else's approval. We are always looking for someone to give us validation. We are constantly seeking the respect of everyone around us. But at what cost? While we are looking for the love and affection of others we are unknowingly losing ourselves in the process. That is not to say that we will ever stop wanting people to love us. We all want to feel like there are people out there who genuinely care about us. It supplies us with a sense of confidence and support. But before we go looking for people to satisfy our need to be loved we must sit down with ourselves and ask one question. Do I love me? People think that you have to like everything about yourself in order to love yourself, and in my opinion that is not true. There are many things I don't like about my family members but I love them just the same. There are always going to be things that we wish we could change about ourselves and Who We Are. But you need to be able to love yourself past your imperfections. When you don't have genuine love for yourself you open yourself up to mistreatment and heartache. You start seeking the affection of everyone around you and people notice it and take advantage of it. When you truly love yourself you stop accepting less than what you deserve because you already know what love feels like. So, can you honestly say that you love you?
Even though we have all lost so much throughout our lives, I don't think we will ever get used to the feeling that loss brings. The loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, the loss of an opportunity, the loss of a relationship, all can lead you spiraling into the abyss of depression. Sometimes we feel so bad that we foolishly say that we have nothing left to lose. But there is always more that you can lose. But there is an upside. There is a silver lining. No matter how much you feel like your gas has run out, you always have something left in the tank. That is where a positive attitude comes into play. It pays to be optimistic. It pays to have faith. Especially during those times when you feel like you have lost everything. During those hard times the only thing you have left is your faith. Faith that things are going to get better. Faith that you will make it through your hard times. Faith that you weren't created to constantly struggle for the rest of your life. Faith will take you a long way. Having Faith in God, faith in yourself, and faith in others will help ease the anxiety that the heartaches of a difficult life can bring. Having faith doesn't mean that you won't ever feel depressed. It doesn't mean that you won't feel stressed and mentally and emotionally depleted. But it does mean that you know that without a doubt you will be able to make it! It means you will deal with the worst as it comes, but you are always looking forward to the best. Never lose faith. Never give in to the negativity!
We all make mistakes. But if I'm honest with myself, the things I have done in my life have not been mistakes. Mistakes are something that happens by accident. A mistake is when you don't intend to take a particular action but it happens anyway. Just because you are not proud of the end result doesn't mean you made a mistake. You made a choice and now you have to live with it. In the past I have made many bad choices. And I'm probably going to make a few more. But don't look at my past choices and think that I will make the same ones again. Don't look at the problems I used to have and think that I still have those problems today. Don't look at the person I used to be and think that person was not capable of changing. Everyone wants to judge. That is natural. I want you to judge. So look at me now and tell me what you see. judge me by my current actions. Judge me by my current character. Judge me by what comes out of my mouth today. If you are still looking at the old me then I'm not the one who is not capable of change. You Are!
What exactly do you want from a man? Do you want something handsome to look at? Do you want someone who can give you financial stability? Do you want someone who can satisfy you in the bedroom? Do you want someone who can stimulate you intellectually? Do you want someone who can motivate you and bring out your true potential? Do you want someone who can nourish your spirit and make sure you keep the Creator present in everything that you do? Do you want someone who can help you get through the difficult times in your life? Do you want someone who can teach you things that you may not know? Do you want someone who will let you share your expertise on matters that they might not be as experienced with? Do you want someone you can trust? Do you want someone you can have fun with? Do you want someone loyal? Do you want someone who is not easy to anger? Do you want someone who will listen to you without judgement? Do you want someone who will stand up for you? Do you want someone who will believe in you when no one else will? Do you want someone who will be there for his children and his family? Do you want someone who knows what he wants? Do you want someone who has a plan for his life? Do you want someone brave in the face of adversity? Do you want someone who won't give up at the first sign of hardship? Do you want someone who loves you unconditionally? Do you want someone who lets you be you? You should!
One of the main parts of keeping a positive mind frame is realizing that everything you have is a gift. Health, money, material possessions, and life itself can be taken away at any time without warning. If we are in a constant state of thankfulness and appreciation for the things that we have and the things that we have accomplished thus far in our lives we won't have time to notice all of the negative things and all of the things have yet to accomplish. It is easy for us to focus on all the negative aspects of our lives. But if you actively seek out all of the positive things about your life you will find out that being thankful is a full-time job. Be thankful that you don't have the job you think you want. That job could be with takes you away from your family and what keeps you from focusing on your true purpose. Be thankful you don't have that relationship you think you want. That could be what turns your spirit bitter and cold because the person isn't the right one for you. Be thankful you didn't go on that trip that you wanted to go on. You could have been saved from a deadly plane or car crash. No matter what you are going through you must remember that you are protected and highly favored. Though you might not understand it at the moment, everything that is happening to you is happening for a reason, and for that we must be soul shakingly grateful!
THERE IS NOTHING MORE POWERFUL THAN A WOMAN WHO KNOWS HER WORTH, OR A MAN THAT KNOWS HOW TO SHOW IT TO HER
What is a woman worth to a man? When we use the word “worth” we automatically think about price. But a woman's worth to a man is based on the overall value she is capable of bringing to his life. To a man a woman is a beautiful sight to behold. A mere glimpse of her can elevate a man's mood and give him a feeling of exhilaration. A woman is also a nurturer. She can make a man feel loved and powerful and she can feed that part of him that makes him feel like a warrior and a conqueror of the world. A woman is also a motivator. She can push a man to reach for heights that he never thought he could attain. A woman also provides a sense of “home”. She can make him feel like there is a place where he can be at peace while also making him feel like there is a place worth fighting for. A woman is also an equalizer. She can provide a man with a sense of balance to counteract his aggressiveness and ego. A woman is also a counselor. She can help a man work through his pain, depression, and childhood issues so that he can become the man he was meant to be. A woman is also a lover. She can bring out that primal part of a man that is filled with passion and desire. A woman is also a treasure. She is something that a man cherishes and that he will fight to possess and protect at any cost. A woman is also a mirror. She can show a man the best and worst parts of himself so that he can finally realize who he is or who he was meant to be. Unfortunately most men will never understand what a woman is truly worth, because sadly, a lot of women don't know either.